Growing up means..........!!

Seems like it is the right time to pen down something like this...may be after some years if i tell something to the teen people that “i became this after coming through ur age..so i knw how thngs vil be”,teens wont believe it obviously..and chances are high that they may call u retarded.. so this is all about growing up..this is all about how things changed after you realized that u r growing up n not in ur childhood and not in your teen... n y i choose this time?? because u remember the thngs better now..may be after some years u may forget how u had been in all those times!!
This realizations happened not all of a sudden..it happens when u see ur own reflection in ur younger ones...and then u think...”ah oh...i had been the same.oh god.. i had been the very same!!”
So let us begin from a simple example..! in a world of entertainment..everyone will be having a hero of their own...atleast a secret crush!! n some may even fight for their favourite hero against the fans of the other one. when u realize that...ur hero will survive even if u dont fight for him...U R GROWING UP!
Another thing is that.. u might have been a little shy to listen to ur favourite tracks while u r going wid ur family or elder ones or something like tht..atleast some of u in ur teen ..i was the one in tht category in my teen...i was shy to listen to some romantic numbers..and i was even more hesitant to play fast numbers while i travel wid elders... bt when u put it for u widout a fear or shyness and wen u began to see the song as a creative thing and when the fellow travelers discuss the meaning wid you and starts appreciating the creativity of the songs just like you and share it wid you...then u r growing up!! and u vl see a huge transition in ur choice of songs..!! in ur teen u vl be behind all the peppy numbers...and as life moves on u vl be seeking for lyrical quality..!(not everyone of course..bt most of thm agreed to this tht they chose lyrical quality wen i talked)
Now an another angle,i remember an incident..when i got the mobile phone for the first time..an ordinary one...i was so excited..tht i just rang upto my dad and told him(at those times...u vl get a booklet free along wid the sim card..which had short hands for some words) “dad,see this book has got short hands which can be used in writing sms..we write gr8 for “great”..and gud morng for “good morning” “and he just joined wid me in my excitement..asking me..”is it”?? (bt actually he very well knew it before me..!and he had been doing the very same thng for 2-3 years already..bt he just joined wid the excitement of mine! i didnt realize it at tht time.. i thght he just dnt knw such thngs..! bt wen u realize tht ur elder ones knw much more thngs than you...and are more compassionate and caring than you..thn U R GROWING UP!
There were times wen ur mom fed u.. cooked for u... and talked to u as if u r a kid.. she did tht because u were a kid then... but when she starts sharing her worries..her tensions..her sorrows..n wen she begins to open up all the thngs tht is disturbing her...just like opening up to a friend.. trust me..its because U R GROWING UP! she thinks tht u can understand her! u vl be amused and shocked equally.. in ur mind u may not realize this fact ..!but see..they are considering you as an adult!!
I believe most of us would have done this- tht wen u were so small.. u used to teach the desks and benches in front of you.. you beat it.u shout at it.because u consider it as the students and u??- a teacher.. u were damn serious then.. and u r mom,dad would hav laughed at it secretly bt acted serious in front of you..if u happened to see the same scene somewhere and if u laughed it..it means u r growing up!! u r realizing that how stupid u had been all these years! and u r laughing because wen u thnk bak..it was all fun! and atleast once if u feel tht u want to go bak to ur childhud...and relive the same days again..tht is wen u realize tht u are growing up n slowly responsibilities are surrounding you!! i now a days when listens to AIR ,some programmes of kids,where in,they tells u the moral stories,they sings you the songs of butterfiles,the birds...i used to feel tht..the most beautiful and best part of ur life is ur childhud..because its the only time when even ur mistakes are considered cute..and i even used to ask in my mind..”dear angels..dont grow up...this world isnt this beautiful as u see in ur stories!..just stay like this as kids..and live happily!”
In my teen..i was very much interested in arguments..and i found a rare thrill in winning it..!! but when u realize..tht.. it is even more effective wen u talk less and opens up ur mouth for the most necessary things only..thn..U R GROWING UP! because u are understanding that u never know how things vl be in future...and u vl never have an idea what all things u said vl be back biting u..The age teaches u this.. ur experiences teaches you this..
i am sure most of u had some secret diaries at least in our teenage..and u would be writing ur thoughts,sorrows dreams etc etc in that... and if u turned down those pages after sometime..and one day u r feeling that..”whats all this!! is this me..who is sad for all these silly things like “nobody is liking me... i am all alone in this world..so and so.. me,me n me alone..!” if u really feels this once u read it..and if u feel to tear it all... then u r growing up!! because u feel it wen u realize tht ur sorrows are nothing actually..u were crying for the most silly things...there are even more challenging things life is planning for you..!
In your childhood u would have cried to ur parents for buying something..some toys..some silly things which had no use at all..but was costly...and they of course would have brought you that.i remember..wen i was a kid..i asked my dad for a stethoscope.. i couldn't even pronounce it properly at that time..but i happened to see it..a toy...of it somewhere..and i kept on disturbing my dad asking him to bring it..! i meant only a toy of it! but he bought me a real one!! may b a second hand!! n i remember..putting those ear pieces of it and going checking all!! but when i think back.. i understood,i wasn’t doing good..!
when u realize that u had wasted all those money of your parents and u were nagging them most of the time..but still they loved you for what you are..then U R GROWING UP!!!
It was not just an year or two that i was a regular follower of some film critic groups and some internet troll groups.. yes in the beginning it was all fun.. n laughed to most of it..! bt slowly i noticed a change in myself.. tht u are slowly tuning into finding only negatives and mocking at most of the things!! and the most of the internet trolls are simply meant for mocking!!! or in fact they are only made to tease! and at some point i even felt tht ter is no good left in this world... and i saw the most severe critics of the world here in this media! i even feel like all are bad! i even felt like..watz the use of living here in ths planet! and thn i began to unfollow it...!! slowly positivity began to fill..! so tht was a realization... u do good or bad..! still the world around u will be splitted...one vl be appreciating..one will be criticizing you..! this is the part of humane nature..u can do nothing!! when u realize this and choose what you want..when u realize tht this world needs more people to appreciate rather than to criticize , U R GROWING UP!!( i even knw for this one particular note also i vl see this splitted world...thtz how the world is :))
In our teen...most of us would hav been philosophical..reading some quotes and giving lectures about it to our friends..boasting about it..as if we knw much better things about life than anyone..and yeah even than our elders...but... when u realize that everybody develop their philosophy of life from their own experiences and u can do nothing about it..and later when u read the same quotes that u were giving lectures on,and felt as the most ridiculous ones...then trust me..U R GROWING UP! and u have developed ur own philosophies..be proud of it!
When you realize that heartfelt conversations are all the ones u do straight and direct wid the people..and are not the ones u do through sms,whtasp,etc etc...then U R GROWING UP! because u are seeing people..u r talking to thm makin an eye contact.. u r unknowingly creating a bond wid them!! n u feel happy doing this!! it has an effect of it own!!
and something which is very relevant...
when u realize tht ,its not necessary to bring up to social media, everything tht happens in ur life , then i must say...U HAV GROWN UP! because its a realization tht ppl are keen to knw the life of you..not because they are wishing well for you..bt just to gossip,(not all of them..bt most of them)!! thn y shud u even giv a chance????????? personal thing is personal!! find a rare thrill in leading a secret life dear ones!!!
Okay,now something more important.. there is a time in everbody’s life that u respect everyone..u listen to everyone..wid fear...or u were afraid to speak because of the position they hold..or for the people they are or several other factors..!! bt then... wen one day things changes for you.. one day u are just speaking up the things u wanted to say.. one day u are having the courage to speak up for the right thing..or one day u r realizing that nobody is going to speak for you unless u urself come forward and do it for you....!!!! then tht is it...U R GROWING UP!!! u r realizing tht u shud not be afraid to speak up for u...because to put this in paulo coelho’s words “at lifes most significant moments..u r always alone” yeah when u grow up..u vl be least afraid of people,as i said..this world vl have 2 opinions for everything u do! so...do what ur conscience says to u!!
And lastly...wen u realize tht peace of mind is the biggest blessing u can hav in this entire world..u r really really growing up!!! and ultimately if u understud tht ur requirements in this short life is really minimum..just like a sound sleep, some good food, and ur very dear n near ones around..u r done..!! u have grown up!!! ;) n be thankful if u all hav this blessings!!
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